Being a Good Parent

Being a parent is one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have. There is a natural instinct that seems to come to a new parent, but there are bits of advice that can help when you are challenged in the growing up years. The most important thing however, that any parent can give their child, is a sense of being loved and the most important thing that any parent can remember is that they don't have to be infallible to be a "perfect" parent

• A gentle cuddle,a little encouragement,appreciation, approval or even a smile can go a long way to boost the confidence and well-being of your children.Sadly,many children seek this kind of acceptance from their peers.
• 1) tell them you love them everyday :)
• 2) Give lots of hugs and some kisses
• 3) Love them unconditionally; don't force them to be who you think they should be in     order to earn your love. Let them know that you will always love them no matter what.
• 4) Express interest in your children and involve yourself in his and her life.
• 5) Create an atmosphere in which they can come to you with a problem however large or small.
• Respect their privacy as you would want them to respect yours; for example, if you teach your child that your room is out of boundaries to them, respect the same with their room. Allow them to feel that once they enter their room they can know that no one will look through their drawers, or read their diary.

• • Instill in them, a sense of belonging by displaying individual and family portraits on the walls of the house.
  • Don't argue with your spouse in front of the children. If they are sleeping, argue quietly. Children may feel insecure and fearful when they hear parents bickering. In addition, children will learn to argue with each other the same way they hear their parents argue with each other. Show them that when people disagree, they can discuss their differences peacefully.
  • Avoid favoritism. Surveys have shown that most parents have favorites, but most children believe that they are the favorite. If your children are quarreling, don't choose sides, but be fair and neutral.
  • and the most important 
    • Avoid comparing your children to others, especially siblings. Each child is individual and unique. Celebrate their differences and instill in each child the desire to pursue their interests and dreams. Failure to do so may give your child an inferiority complex, an idea that they can never be good enough in your eyes.
    • Teach your children that it is okay for them to be different, and they do not have to follow the crowd. Teach them right from wrong when they are young, and they will (more often than not) be able to make their own decisions, instead of listening to/following others.
    • Remember that your child is not an extension of yourself. Your child is an individual under your care, not a chance for you to relive your life through them.